The best part about you is the way you translate complex psychological stuff into easy to understand and actionable insights. Have you read about Moses? The one in front of him is rejected and turned away because the world “out there” needs him. He says he can't live with me being an Atheist because it makes him feel uncomfortable. It has freed me. These are the tools we all need. Everything can be interpreted in different ways. You have explained my beliefs as a Christian precisely! This has nothing to do with anything here except I smiled at comment #4. But a religious person may not be a spiritual person. You hit the nail right on the head…. i always correct him – were not married, dad. He is amazing and does not fight against my beliefs, but it still effects my faith. This is a different Dee from the other post that says wow Stephanie in the comment line. For those who don’t believe, Jesus is soon to make His return to retrieve His children. “The primary goal of marriage is children, and helping your partner reach heaven. That does NOT mean that we can’t have great friendships with all people. I highly recommend this book.”, -- Dave Campbell,Certified Windbridge Research Medium (WCRM). When I opened up to that relationship and began the daily practice of reading the Bible, Devotionals, prayer, giving thanks, meditating on His word, my life and my heart changed. But, I am trying to let him go without begging my way back. Amen! The difference between us, Julia, is that people come and ask me for advice because something isn’t working in their life. EQUAL people. I wasn’t really raised religious and don’t have any religious feelings for the most part. You can receive or reject. I would recommend this sweet giant to anyone who feels the loss of a loved one. All in all take time to see God for the answers. He is the first real guy I have been in a relationship with. Dating a non-Catholic (or non-Christian, even) taught this man how important his faith was to him. Your handle says otherwise, at least to me. I don’t care how archaic this sounds to anyone, if you want to know what he is thinking, he is thinking around these lines. It isn't healthy to think this way and he isn't going to get that he can't demand anything from you until you have shifted your position. This way he'll know that he actually make the right decision. He is also asking you to place your own education and self-development behind his own. Placeholders.enable(); I got there, and that is when I saw that money didn’t fix it, you need a spiritual life that is plentiful. A trial. You can't just pick the parts of me … Christians divorce at a higher rate than atheists, Should I Keep Dating Him Even Though Religion Might Tear Us Apart? Thanks to Evan and you I think I will use this over the next couple weeks to realize my situation is probably for the best, although it doesn’t seem like right now. He is very Catholic, yet he, like any logical person, does question things, even aspects of his religion. You also need to ask him why these demands are appearing all of a sudden. Another thing is ask him to get you a copy of the koran and also books on islam (like book on tawhid, what do muslims beleive, the pillars of islam and articles of faith, the life history and characters of prophet muhammad SAW, the character of a true muslim, etc) so that you can do some research on the the religion at your own pace. He said he dosen't want me to change for him but for myself. Your man very honestly expressed to you what he feels he wants and must do in the future, so THANK GD (Jesus or whomever) that you know now, and not when you are married, with two kids and living in a one bedroom apartment because he donated 60% of his money to charity when the rent was not paid and the kids need shoes. I call it something else entirely. Explaining that I am a human being, a great person, give back to the needy, a highly & moral young woman and I don’t see why our religious differences & views is going to just end our relationship. Sometimes, I’ll let my secular biases out, and she always forgives me. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. Religion may not make it into the top five topics that couples fight about (that’d be money — which you can read about here, sex, work, parenting and housework, if you’re curious), but that doesn’t mean that religion doesn’t cause its fair share of conflicts–especially when both spouses have differing religious beliefs.. Then do so with your actions and your attitude, not your “witness” of words, slogans and proselytizing. Before when we talked he always said he would follow me wherever I went now he says he wants me to stay in AZ with him until he finishes college. You really are. We had a long distance relationship, so over time the challenge of being apart became very real and more intense. ", -- Dr. Matt Townsend,Host, The Matt Townsend Show. Never before did he ever say he had a problem with the fact that were both from different religions. So many people call themselves Christians but  think that going to Church on Sunday is all the requirement of having a relationship with Jesus. I do love him, I would do anything for him. It’s about God opening the way for mankind. Exactly. (Part II). My girlfriend is Catholic and I’m Jewish. Is he getting cold feet? And I’ve been thankful to all of those women for ending it before the relationship went too far, and we had to argue about whether to send the kids to public school or an ashram. This book tells the heartfelt story of the author’s tragic loss of her husband and his subsequent messages to her from beyond the veil, and it outlines the steps we should take to communicate with the spirits of the people we loved on Earth. in his eyes though, i think we are, which i think is just weird. However, I’ve retained a lot of what is referred to as “Catholic social teaching” and it means more than “tithing”. When he seems to change his mind, encourage him with positive things and praise him. Placeholders.enable(); Why You Choose The Wrong Partner (Again and Again). He says I won’t be able to support his decisions and/or I’ll resent him. How Do I Choose Between My Guy and My Family? Anyone can be religious as he believes on his faith, he believes on God. If you say these words to me, he surely knows of your willingness to give yourself up for him. If you live your life honestly and mindfully, then you don’t have to beat yourself up wondering “what did I do?”. He is Christian and I am Roman Catholic. When I mentioned to her that by dying to herself (sin) to live through Him, and thus have a better life,   she said I was talking in Riddles. ", -- Bill Hammond III,Winner of the Best Historical Fiction Award, 2012, "You are awesome Dr. Jamie. The thing is, I’m not of any religion, but I’m pretty open-minded. In her eloquently written new book, Dr. Turndorf has made their everlasting love accessible to all. My last and probably most significant was such a wonderful experience, partially because he is Jewish. He told me what are we going to teach our kids? 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There are many Christians who go to church on sundays but really don’t have an understanding of what the messge of Jesus Christ was all about. I particularly enjoyed reading how she used her talent/mediumship to help people overcome their grief. So your pastor doesn’t belive that love and faith can save somebody? Just as an aside, if you want to make an impression on the rest of us, why don’t you, and especially the institutional church which you have in effect turned into your “god”, try actually living by what’s in your own book. You really should think of where you want to go. What makes your flaming self-righteous indignation any better? Personally, right now, when I look online, I look for non-religious – just because I don’t want to push the religious folks into violating their principles for me – I know it isn’t going to work anyway. I totally agree with you. This website uses cookies to improve your experience. You’re right about the yoking up part. I don’t think he led you on. My guess is, the guy is not lying. My boyfriend abandoned me when he found out I am pregnant; ... I’m an atheist and my partner wants me to convert to the Muslim religion. Think of Moses and his wife! Okay, so I'm an Atheist and my boyfriend is a Christian. It…. It is very much possible for religion to occupy a huge place in a person’s life, determine their lifestyle, and take top priority. I wish you nothing but true peace & love in everything that you do. So I do think that a lot is going to depend on how much religion is part of the person’s life, and also whether they can sit down and work out the details of such a relationship. She wasn’t exactly following God when  she got married. That I believed in Gods will and that whatever happens I will be ok with the outcome. A set of values that you subscribe to. Plus, he wants me to go to church with him but I refuse to. By then, I had divorced twice, and had spent most of my life pursuing the american dream of money and success. It would also be near impossible for such a Christian to allow their children to be brought up as anything but Christian. It sucks for me. The primary goal of marriage is children, and helping your partner reach heaven. Before he will stop trying to run you, you will need to grow within yourself to the point that you no longer are willing to say 'I would do anything for him. ' “I am heartbroken about this myself., but no amount of heartbreak is worth losing my soul over.” I really liked this guy, but he left me because he was not religious. If this person, whom I would probably see my future self with could not accept to teach me or have me understand his ways(as I was willing to with time) how would this person treat my relatives or other people close to me that he found to not be “true followers” who to us were innocent Good willed people…being a religious follower to me is great,but pin pointing other people who are not followers of your ways or religion or beliefs or values is not…serve God and help others see him through you so much that they would want to learn and know him,help them if they are interested in knowing him,but shoving your beliefs onto others or making them become the person you want them to while holding the relationship you share hostage or threatened it is just for me,wrong.